The Decided Rant [Fearfully and Wonderfully Made]

Today I discovered something rather unpleasant- I'm ungrateful about where I am in my life right now. I look around at all my friends, in movies, in Starbucks, and all I see are couples. You know that movie, Baby Mama, where the lady is so obsessed with the desire to have a baby, she ends up seeing them EVERYWHERE she goes? I feel like I have been so wrapped up in the "stages of life" that I have unintentionally set that next step as "get a boyfriend" and have in a way caused a foot hold for ungratefulness to creep in. 

As a young person, there is constantly the looming question you hear at family reunions, church events, Thanksgiving gatherings..."So??? Do you have a boyfriend?" And my answer has always been, "No, no I don't". I never had a problem with not being in a relationship. I liked being independent. Being free. Until I got the idea that being single was a bad thing. I thought there must be something wrong with me, because I was the only one who was alone. I know I can't be the only one who's felt like that. There has to be thousands of young girls who felt just like I did. And that is so sad.

We have done ourselves a GREAT injustice by replacing the role of God with a man. God is the only one who is truly satisfying. He is the only one with whom we can find peace and rest. He is the lover of our souls, and our "One". I want to squash the idea this culture has implanted in our minds that we are somehow a half of a person, just waiting for our other half to complete us and give us our happily ever after. The idea that the ultimate goal in life is to get married has gone on long enough. When God created me in my mother's womb, He did not say, "There's one half, someday I'll unite her with her other half." No, He said, "you are fearfully and wonderfully made". The only thing I was missing when I was born was Jesus. I was a sinner, but He saved me; I am whole again. I am a complete human being. I am His and He is mine, and there is no one like Him.

I'm sorry if this seems harsh or offensive, but this is an epidemic that has a crippling effect. I've seen it in those around me and I've seen it in myself. The idea of this is not to promote celibacy nor marriage, but to call an awareness to who we are in Jesus. We are His bride and that we should one day become one with Him is the ultimate goal.

I am fearfully and wonderfully made. That has not changed by me being single. And it will not change if I become someone's wife someday.